In very simple terms the BIG- you is the observer of your life and the SMALL-you is the experience-er of your life.
There are two versions of you.
The BIG-you is the one that is all-knowing, aware and observing the events and interactions in your life for what they are. This part of you that can see and understand your personal story; your big picture, the grander picture, the spiritual journey, the purpose or reason you came here.
The SMALL-you is the one that believes everything you experience is real and all there is. It feels deeply the hurts and pains of the life you are living – including your childhood memories. It lives in the world taking on the beliefs of parents, family, friends and society. It interprets your experiences through the external perceptions provided by the outer world. It is fear-based. It is run by the amygdala and is always trying to keep you safe from danger, even if that danger is being the best you can be!
There is a saying: “Be of the world not in the world.” What this is referring to is that we are to move out of living our lives as the SMALL-you and become the BIG-you. Being “of the world” is the BIG-you. Being “in the world” is the SMALL-you.
Once you become aware of the presence of your SMALL-you and how it limits your personal power and capacity to express all you are, you can learn how to interfere with the SMALL-you’s mental chatter. Your inner critic is always the SMALL-you talking to you.
The BIG-you is your inner best friend and your spiritual self. There is no magical trick to being aware of the BIG-you. It already exists. All you have to do is listen – you allow the BIG-you to talk to you. You allow the spirit to have a place in your life. You allow your intuition to flow and you allow yourself to grow, change and fully develop into all you were born to be.
The first thing to do is identify what stops you from listening and allowing your spiritual self to have a place in your daily life. How is the SMALL-you keeping you small; blocking and stoping you from blossoming, growing and changing into that which your BIG-you knows you are?
Look at your natural gifts and talents, skills, abilities, fears, dreams, self-concept, insecurities, jealousy, things or people you envy, the negative self-talk going on in your mind, the should and should-nots of your life; the ought and ought-nots that control and restrict your life. Answer these questions:
What messages are in your head? What is the self-critic telling you about your dreams, abilities, etc.?
What proof do you have that these messages are true? Who is that message from? Does it sound like someone? Is it what was said to you?
How do you want to be?
Remember my saying: It’s all just data; it’s information I can utilise! If you de-charge the fear-based-story-telling what are you left with?
There is always a part of you that sees the bigger picture and knows the way forward, the way you are to grow and move through the hurt and pain you are experiencing. Your BIG-self is always willing to know, and it is willing to surrender your ego to a higher power, to follow your inner guidance or inner knowing. It is your BIG-self that brings your lessons to you. It also knows the part of you that doesn’t know, who is scared and fearful, who is trying to resist change and keep things the same – your SMALL-self. Your BIG-self loves and cares about your SMALL-self. It has great compassion and empathy for who you think you are. But it isn’t going to let you stay small if it can help it.
What are you going to do to love the SMALL-you so you can grow more and more into the BIG-you?