Most of the men I interviewed I had personally approached, explained what I was doing, and requested to interview them. One such interview was conducted at the pub, because he needed a drink to open up! In the process of asking my questions we drew attention from other men in the pub. They inquired as to what we were doing and upon being told asked if I would interview them as well. Of course I said, ‘yes!’
This triggered many sessions of me sitting in a pub and allowing men to be “drawn to me”. The insights I gained were incredibly valuable. Forming no stereotypes, many of these drunk men in pubs spoke about the role of being the funny man and how they fitted into the world of men through humour.
A man who can tell a good joke has his place among men. Being funny is an important socialising skill for us. The culture of any kind of men’s group from service to sporting groups all contain a place for humour, laughter, and frivolity. As men we love to play practical jokes and mock each other for the things we say and do. We have to have a tough outer skin to not take things to heart and we use humour to toughen up young boys.
We like the larrikin; the irresponsible funny man in our group. Secretly, we wish we could be like that if we are more serious. Yet for others, we don’t like the way men excuse other men’s poor behaviour just because it was funny. Some things really aren’t funny but as men we don’t think about how it impacts on others, instead focus on the humour in it all. We can be shallow when it comes to preferring humour over common-sense.
We love to tell funny stories and we do think we are funnier than women. Sometimes our conversations might sound empty but really they are filled with fun and humour. We like to communicate in this way. We also like to do funny things where we can laugh at each other and show off in some way.
We love watching comedy. We love dry witty humour. We love sarcastic humour. We love slap-stick humour. We use humour to seduce women. If we can make a woman laugh we know we can get her to be attracted to us. We can use our intellect in our humour. Humour is in ever part of our lives as men.
What is your experience of the Joker Archetype in the men you know?